【今日夜读】人为什么需要独处？这是我见过最好的答案

老兵日志 发表于 2018-12-22 19:27:26

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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">我觉得很不解，在情侣扎堆、弥漫着爆米花香气的电影院里，一个人去看电影，实在是需要勇气。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">有些人在网上总结了孤独的等级，一个人看电影排在第四。小安却乐在其中，从来没有觉得这是一件孤独的事情。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">她说，以前下班经常和同事一起去看电影。无奈，同事话特别多，喜欢边看电影边评价演员的演技，她每次都备受干扰。后来，和男友一起看电影，男友却有个习惯：边吃零食边咂巴嘴。一场电影看下来，小安什么都没记住，光记得男友咂巴嘴的声音了。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">而一个人看电影，可以随时兴起随时出发，选片子也不需要顾忌别人的感受。看电影的过程，还能不受干扰地仔细品鉴每个细节。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">有时候，独处反倒是一种享受。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">不知道你有没有过这样的感受：酒局、K歌、聚会，夜深之后人群散去，心里只剩下无限的空虚和冷清。处在一群人的狂欢中却倍感寂寞，一个人独处时反倒获益良多。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">哲学家梭罗曾经远离尘嚣，只身一人在瓦尔登湖畔隐居两年。后来有人问他：“你一个人住在那一定很孤独吧，特别是在风雪天里。”</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">梭罗回答：我们赖以生存的地球不也只是宇宙中的一叶小舟吗？我为什么会感到孤独呢？我们的地球不是在银河系中吗？</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">孤独，不能以人与人的空间距离来度量。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">学生时代的我，总是害怕独处，吃饭、逛街、泡图书馆，甚至上厕所都一定要拉着别人一起。害怕一个人走在路上时被人投来异样的目光，那意味着：你性格孤僻、人缘差、没朋友。所以很多时候，宁愿在人群中迷失自我，进行一些无意义的活动，也不愿独处。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">后来我才知道：人们常常误解了“独处”与“孤独”的界限，因此将独处与孤立无援、寂寞无助的状态混为一谈。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">与自己相处是一种能力。有心理学家就认为：拥有独处的能力，是一个人情感成熟的最重要标志之一。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">著名作家村上春树很喜欢独处。他每天清晨五点起床，晚上十点之前就寝，过着简素又规律的生活。一天之中，清晨的几个小时是他身体机能最为活跃的时间，因此，他会在这段时间内集中精力完成重要的工作。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">随后的时间，或是用于运动，或是处理杂务，打理那些不需要精力高度集中的工作。日暮时分便优哉游哉，或是读书，或是听音乐，放松精神，尽量早点睡觉。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">这种生活看似孤独，他却乐在其中，并高效率地写完了许多名作。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">曾在一本书中看过这样一句话：一个人生活，可以是平淡、乏味、停滞不前，也可以是一场充实、美妙、精彩纷呈的冒险。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">有时候，低质量的社交，不如高质量的独处。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">作家李尚龙说过：寂寞是最好的增值期，不幸的是，那些独处的时间，终究会随着我们年龄增长而减少。你开始高朋满座，你开始酒局不断……</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">可惜的是，很多人并不知道独处的价值，那些独处的时光才会让你发光。人只有学会倾听自己内心的声音，才能活得愈加有深度。利用独处的时间为自己增值，才能把生活的点滴过成诗。</span>
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<div><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;color:rgb(12, 12, 12)">一个人的浮世清欢，一个人的细水长流，也很好。</span><br>

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绿蔷薇 发表于 2018-12-22 22:44:29

夜深了，夜读开始~~~

绿蔷薇 发表于 2018-12-22 22:46:00

独处是一种享受，非常赞成，我就向往这种状态~~{:6_171:}

绿蔷薇 发表于 2018-12-22 22:46:25

一个人的浮世清欢，一个人的细水长流，也很好。

绿蔷薇 发表于 2018-12-22 22:46:41

谢谢老兵的分享，敬茶~~~{:1_153:}

醉雪胡杨 发表于 2018-12-23 11:26:52

欣赏美文，品到了清香。佳作！点赞！

醉雪胡杨 发表于 2018-12-23 11:27:07

静静的品，静静的回味，美文！

欧阳风刀 发表于 2018-12-23 14:09:01

孤独，不能以人与人的空间距离来度量。

欧阳风刀 发表于 2018-12-23 14:09:16

不错的文字分享，感谢推介。

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【今日夜读】人为什么需要独处？这是我见过最好的答案